29 June 2009 | 01:57 am
To be selfless could be an act of selfishness.
“For as long as you could”, “It’s not if you should, but if you shouldn’t”, “You are not obliged to”; but what about “if I want to”?
The previous post should have taught us never to super impose our thoughts on others, the likewise goes on for so called acts of selflessness. Still, it is better to be selfish because of a self-thought selfless act than to be selfish altogether.
It is the same idea as to regret what you have done than to regret what you have not done, isn’t it?
I’m losing that “touch” to blog because I have to lose the agenda to blog here. Get used to it. Any post, could be the last.
heck the agenda! blog whatever sh*t! don’t disappoint your no. 1 fan! SnailFC! :D
it’s crap that selflessness is an act of selfishness. critics have nth better to do, finding fault in every good things. wth.
i don’t know whether below justifies what i feel. i don’t know whether it even makes sense, but still enjoy reading. haha.
“Those who conscientiously care for others are not seeking primarily to further their own individual interests; their interests are interwined with the persons they care for. Neither are they acting for the sake of all others or humanity in general; they seek instead to preserve or promote an actual human relation between themselves and particular others. Persons in caring relations are acting for self-and-other together. Their characteristic stance is neither egoistic nor altruistic; these are the options in a conflictual situation, but the well-being of a caring relation involves the cooperative well-being of those in the relation and well-being of the relation itself.”
But sometimes I can’t help but associate heroism with selflessness? Let’s just see it this way, the ones who are truly selfless will never see themselves as being selfless because they will not magnify their efforts, likely they will claim instead that they are selfish creatures deriving pleasure of their own when helping others, no big deal.
however, in the midst of heroism.. they are in turn “sacrificing” probably their loved one also. When this happened, to their loved one, these people who are heroic will be percieved as selfish. So in one aspect of being selflessness, one can seem as selfish when viewed from another aspect.
depends on which perspective u are looking at it? Selflessness can mean putting others above self, while selfishness can mean only caring about urself. and while it is paradoxical, it can actually happen.
Consider the case where the hero saves someone, only to be injured in the process. He put the safety of others above self. But he’s selfish because he doesn’t care about those who will be concerned if he is seriously injured. He only care that what he wants is to help the other person.
so, both selflessness and selfishness comes together. It just depends on which side u are at when an act happens.